Haylee Daggett, LMFT
(SHE/HER)
"People think intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them bare and their response is ‘You’re safe with me.’—that’s intimacy.” -Taylor Jenkins Reid
My heart resonates with this quote. My heart also resonates with anyone who feels pain and yearning when reading this quote.
Perhaps the pain comes from years of not knowing yourself. Maybe that stems back to your childhood or a past relationship when your feelings were manipulated or controlled for the sake of someone else. You weren’t nurtured like you were supposed to be. Instead, you were left feeling confused about who you are and out of touch with your worth. And now, you second-guess every feeling you have, repeating the cycle inside of yourself.
And the yearning is what leads you to this page: the yearning to heal, to know your truth, to share that with someone, and to feel safe. You want to stop hiding from yourself and to stop fighting with your partner. You want to heal your past pain and become a fuller version of yourself—the person you were always meant to be. You want to show up as that person in a relationship so that you can have the chance of someone catching you. You want safety and connection.
My Approach
I’m passionate about helping individuals and couples heal the pain of their past experiences and peacefully move forward. I begin by forming a trusting relationship with you; I respect you, so I want you to feel safe in my hands.
I’ll help you to look at your struggles differently—instead of it being an aspect of blame, we put it in context. When things are in context, it’s much easier to identify and work with what’s getting in the way of your goals. I’m trained in many different intervention styles and am flexible to find the right way to lift your constraints.
At the end of therapy you’ll feel authentic, centered, and connected. You’ll have more energy for fulfillment and intimacy, instead of doubting yourself. You’ll feel eager and curious about yourself, instead of scared and collapsed when faced with the question of identity. You’ll find and experience safe relationships, instead of fighting.
I have a particular specialty in working with trauma. I approach this by revisiting your past pain with the goal of uncovering what you truly felt and needed at that time. Together, we focus on giving you what you needed then in real time now. It’s incredible and humbling to be a part of the clarity that then emerges—clarity on your feelings and needs, how to state that, how to accept others, and how to love yourself. I help you slow down to bask in this clarity, making it a bookmark that you can forever reference.
On a personal note……
I identify as an able bodied, white, queer woman. I grew up in the brutal winters of northern Minnesota, but I’m most recently from Chicago. As much as I truly love the vibrant city of Chicago, I felt a calling to enjoy more nature, so I moved to Seattle in June of 2020! In my spare time I love hiking and camping with my two dogs (Mini Australian Shepherds: Bo and Finley), biking, yoga, reading, woodworking, interior decorating, Washington wines, and brewery hopping. I also spend my time advocating for human rights and the climate crisis.
I knew from a young age that my calling in life was to be a healer of sorts—my fascination with the human experience, relationships, and psychology, paired with my natural compassion and empathy landed me in this field. I truly love what I do and consider it the honor of a lifetime. I hope to meet you soon!
Guiding values
LGBTQ Affirming
BIPOC Ally
Feminism
Body Positivity
Kink and Sex Worker Ally
Confidentiality
Empirical Research
treatment modalities
Experiential Therapy
Attachment Theory
Somatic Experiencing (SE)
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP)
Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT)
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Meditation and Mindfulness